dr felton also recommended that i don’t take on responsibilities that are not mine to take on… now, how do you do that? i mean, really, any of you know how to say “no”??? because i don’t!
being busy has become a pandemic in the past 50 years or so. women used to sit down and read, play an instrument for pleasure, sew, RELAX. i haven’t sat down at home to read, during the day, in a long time… i figure i can get my reading in while i’m trying to fall asleep in bed (ebooks RULE) at the end of the day. when is the last time you allowed yourself at least one hour to rest your body & your mind? i feel guilty doing something i enjoy, pampering myself, because there could be something more productive being done with that hour. danny and i had massages a couple months back… he almost fell asleep on the table, whereas i used that time to jot down a mental “to-do” list. i can’t even relax during a massage. how many women out there are like this? dr felton is right, we need to cut out some of the “extra fat” of our lives… i want to do it Biblically, so i’ll be prayerfully searching the Word for ways to properly prioritize, rest, etc. if you have any ideas, please let me know.
the below is the woman i want to be… a woman who fears the L-rd, has a good heart. i want my husband to trust me, that i will not do him harm. a woman needs to have hard-working & willing hands. even though this was written thousands of years ago, this mentions that the woman had her own side-business. she was an integral part of the household. she wasn’t just strong in character, but she was physically strong (gotta take care of our bodies, ladies, this is BIBLICAL). it says here that we need to have a good heart that helps the needy, with wisdom & kindness on our tongues, not gossip and spitefulness. what’s being described here is a wise, kind, strong (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually) woman, who takes care of her household, does not gossip or stays idle. it also speaks here of a woman who is not obsessed with her looks, not to say that she does not take care of herself, because she does wear clothing of “fine linen and purple” which is clothing that was worn by KINGS. however, this is an outcome of her work… not a credit on her card (sorry for the bad pun there). she knows that (v. 30) “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” so, my end goal here is to become a woman who fears the L-rd. concentrate on judging righteously, on fearing the L-rd & fulfilling His commandments, give your heart to Him… then i think my life will naturally become rightfully prioritized by HIM. easy to say… now i need to implement it….
The Woman Who Fears the L-rd
10. An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. 13 She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. 14 She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. 15 She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. 16 She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. 17 She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. 18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. 19 She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. 20 She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. 22 She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. 24 She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. 25 Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. 26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 27 She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 29 “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” 30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. 31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.Proverbs 31:10-31 (ESV).Apr 20, 2012