How do we avoid this generational departure? Parents must pass on the
fear of the LORD to their children and children’s children. The
Christian parent must do everything to pass on the heart and passion for
the Lord as well as knowledge of the Lord’s commands.
On the positive side, if we live out godly lives before our children,
they will most likely pick up that passion. We must be careful to
instruct them about who the Lord is and all about His ways. Neglect of
this will lead to a next generation that has respect for our ways but no
power.
If we live compromising lives, then we live as if we are already in the
second generational stage. Our children will, for the most part, leave
the Lord. They do not believe because we do not really believe. Genuine
faith always touches our life’s priorities. Only a false religious faith
permits a division between ‘belief’ and life. Our children look at the
goodness of our lives rather than what we say. They are right. If we do
not live by what we say, then they see only our hypocrisy. This produces
sad and bitter lives.
Pause for Reflection: Are
you excited about what God is doing in your life? If so, have you
shared it with your children. If not, do you really expect your
children’s zeal will be above yours?
Principle #3: Convinced of the need for God’ s blessing (Deuteronomy 6:3)
O Israel, you should listen and be careful to do it, that it may be
well with you and that you may multiply greatly, just as the LORD, the
God of your fathers, has promised you, in a land flowing with milk and
honey. (Deuteronomy 6:3)
God’s ways always bring the greatest blessing. To the degree our lives
are shaped by His teaching, we are able to live by His high standards.
When we carefully apply these teachings to our lives, then we see how
God’s promises fill our lives. Part of this blessing is material
blessing. Part
of it is multiplication. God wants to increase what is good. Having
many children is a blessing of our LORD, which should not be hindered.
And He will love you and bless you and multiply you; He will also bless the fruit of your womb (Deuteronomy 7:13).
We will either believe our welfare is dependent upon keeping God’ s
Word or we will not. To the degree we obey, we will be blessed. Our goal
should be to ‘run’ after His commands. Only in this way do we have a
passionate love for God that would be worthy to transfer to the next
generation.
Principle #4: Undivided loyalty to Yahweh (LORD) (Dt. 6:4-5)
Hear, O Israel! The LORD is our God, the LORD is one! And you shall
love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and
with all your might. (Deuteronomy 6:4-5)
Since
the Lord is one, we must not divide our affections between Him and
something else. If there were several gods, then our loyalty would be
divided. Since He is one, all of our devotion, inspiration and strength
must be used to do all that He says. His words take a priority in our
lives. God is asking, even demanding, that we take all of our work,
family, and personal plans and re-work them so that He becomes the
center of our lives. A doctor, for example, should give up his
occupation if he is required to do abortions. He should not murder. The
commitment to life requires him to help not hurt people.
Jesus told us that we could only love Him or wealth (mammon) (Matthew 6:24).
If a family worships money, then their decisions will be made with
those prior commitments in mind. In the end, we will only prioritize one
God. We need to commit to serving the LORD Yahweh as a family. This
decision sets our family apart from others. This is important to
communicate to our children.
Pause for Reflection: Is God your life priority? If things got real bad like Job, would you give up God?
Principle #5: Devoted to His Word (Deuteronomy 6:6)
And these words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. Deuteronomy (6:6)
We fool ourselves if we think that we can raise our children to become
godly men and women without having a passion for God and His Word
ourselves. His words must be on our heart. We can judge our commitment
by discerning how much time we spend keeping God’ s Word fresh on our
hearts and minds. When we do spend time in His Word, is it because we
desire His Word or because we are obligated to. We do go through ups and
downs in our spiritual life, but the real test is how much we really
love God through all those times.
Pause for Reflection: How many times do you as the father meditate on God’s Word through the week?
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Principle #6: Committed to Teaching his sons (Deuteronomy 6:7)
And you shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them
when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you
lie down and when you rise up. (Deuteronomy 6:7)
There are two commands here. First, we are instructed to “teach them
diligently to our sons.” This describes formal teaching. Secondly we are
to “talk of” His ways. This is informal teaching.
Formal teaching
The father is responsible for diligently teaching his sons.
Interestingly, we do not see God charging pastors, elders or Sunday
School teachers to do this. We must, therefore, refuse any tendency to
pass off our responsibility as fathers to formally teach our children.
Instead, we are to embrace our responsibility as a charge from God. What
are we to do as fathers?
We need to teach God’s Words diligently to our sons. The content of our
instruction is God’ s words or commands. We need to teach them both the
positive and negative commands. Since many of the commands are set
within the contexts of interesting historical situations, we are also 
to
recite those narratives. The Lord brings that ‘God-conscious’
perspective to our children through us as fathers. This in turn brings
great blessing to our lives.
With a little observation of the typical Christian father, we can see
why many children of Christian families go wayward. The fathers simply
don’t teach their children. Some children have heard their fathers teach
others but not themselves.
Actually, I myself didn’t get a hold of this truth until recently when I
was pondering how my children were going to be any differently prepared
to face the wild world out there than other children. It was then that I
realized that though I personally discipled others, I did not disciple
my own children one on one.
I knew the advantage of personal discipleship but would not apply it to
my own situation. I was humbled by my neglect of personally meeting
with my two older daughters. I decided I would start meeting regularly
with my oldest son and teach him God’s Word.
After I had understood more of the procedure and need, I expanded to
meeting personally with each of my young children that can read. I
did not totally neglect my older children. We have had family devotions
each night since the beginning, but this personal formal input of God’s
word into their lives has become a very important building time.
One of the greatest problems with this concept of family devotions or
personal discipling of our child is that the father usually does not
know God’s Word very well. It is to a father’ s shame if he does not
love God and His Word. Their children will reject their empty religion
because that is all it has become. If a father really loved God, then he
would really love and study God’s Word and pass it on to his children.
Another obstacle for fathers is the notion that they are not gifted
teachers. In other words, they believe that only the few gifted teachers
can teach. It is urgent that we reject this need for fathers to be
gifted teachers to instruct their children. Let us ask what the Word of
God asks of us fathers. Does He our Lord not teach us that we should
love His Word and teach our sons? Yes. Then lets not let this notion of
being a gifted teacher get in the way. If we expose ourselves regularly
to God and His Word, then He Himself will give us things to teach. We
can teach what He teaches us.
Along with this wrong notion is the thought that only those trained in
seminaries can rightfully teach doctrine. This is nonsense. Again, it
goes clearly against what we have learned from this charge to fathers.
Fathers are responsible to teach their sons. Ephesians 4 actually tells
us that pastors and teachers are to equip God’s people. This means that
God charges pastors and teachers to exhort and instruct God’s people.
Among them are many fathers. These fathers are then to instruct their
children. Fathers are responsible to teach their own children. Every
father has to work out this formal instruction. Without it the children
will be missing out. We have chosen to home school. This gives us even
more opportunities to instruct our children using God’s Word rather than
secular curriculum.
Pause for Reflection: What formal teaching of God’s Word do you bring to your family as the father? How much time? Where? To whom?
Informal Teaching
And shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. (Deuteronomy 6:7).
This passage catches fathers off guard. Some fathers do have family
devotions with their children, but many are too busy to spend any
significant time engaging in worthwhile conversation with their sons.
This whole approach works only if the father really loves God with his
whole heart, mind and with all his strength. This passion for God is
normal. Anything else is backsliding. Yesterday, for example, my head
was extremely congested with allergies. I hurt but my heart was joyful.
When I lay down, I thought about my Lord and His love to me. Later I
shared with my children how the Lord kept me from complaining or
doubting His care for me during this time. We must share our life
experiences with our
children. When should a father do this? The passage gives us four settings.
1. Sitting down in your house.
Some dads make themselves too busy watching television, surfing the
web, and going to sports events to spend significant time with their
children. Others have the time, but the Lord is not on their hearts.
They will talk excitedly about some soccer match, some recent purchase
or about some project that they are working on. Their main project
should be to know God and His Word. This lack of passion becomes obvious
to their sons and daughters. Their hearts go somewhere else but not to
Lord. They are only doing what Dad does.
2. Walking somewhere (today driving or riding).
Often times the father listens to music or some radio show that
distracts from conversation. The children love to talk and ask about
things. Do you ask them about their day? Do you like to talk to them?
They really like to talk to you.
3. Lying down (getting ready for bed).
In the old days, houses were smaller. Sometimes guys would sleep in one
room while the girls in another. This provided a lot of opportunities
to share. I remember some of my good conversations with our Dad happened
when camping together. Just before going to sleep we talked a bit. If
children have their own bedrooms, then the parent should pause and talk
with each child before they go asleep. Recount the day a bit. Give them a
hug and kiss.
4. Getting up (early in the morning).
The morning sets the pace and attitude of the day. The father should
share some reflections from his morning devotions or say some statements
that help the children properly look at each day. The father should be
an early riser so that he can help encourage the family when they get
up.
Everyday we face many situations through which the Lord wishes to teach
us and then pass those lessons on to our children. We have moved our
television to the third floor attic. No cable. They can barely see three
stations. It does not distract from our times together downstairs.
Mealtimes are another great opportunity to share about what one is
learning. We must remind you that informal teaching is not to be the
only kind of teaching. It must be a good companion to formal teaching.
Principle #7: Display God’ s Word (Deuteronomy 6:8-9)
And you shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as
frontals on your forehead. And you shall write them on the doorposts of
your house and on your gates. (Deuteronomy 6:8-9)
We surround ourselves with what we love. If we love God’s Word then it
will be all around us. We can put scripture on our computer screens,
walls, plaques, etc. We should throw away some of those old items that
show our old treasures and replace them with our growing love of God’s
Word. Throw away those Buddha statues and anything else associated with
different religions. Take down those pictures of movie and sports idols.
If pictures are depressing, replace them with one from Psalm 23. More
than this memorize these verses with your children and learn to treasure
them.
The best place to store God’s Word is in our heart. What is on our
walls should only reflect what is in our hearts. We put scripture about
our home not because it is mandatory but because that is what we like.
Pause for Reflection: What do you decorate your walls with? Would anyone know that you have a great love for God from walking in or around your home?
Summary
Dads need to rethink their calling from God. They are not just
husbands; they are fathers. They need to lead and teach. It is from such
verses as Deuteronomy 6 we understand the true importance of the family
to a great society. When the family disintegrates, the society dies.
When the family is strong and fathers take the lead, the society does
well. Will we fathers begin to take our role seriously or let our
children be drugged by modern teachings and be caught by the pull of the
secular world culture? Our response to God’ s charge shows our answer.
Behold, I am going to send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of
the great and terrible day of the LORD. And he will restore the hearts
of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to
their fathers, lest I come and smite the land with a curse. (Malachi 4:5-6)
B. Reflections on Family Devotions
Family devotions is a name for the structured time a family regularly
gets together before the Lord. Although most people now seem to think
more in terms of ‘cell’ groups, family devotions or the ‘family altar’
is the age old small group meeting. Families now are so small and people
dispersed from their families, we need to create artificial group
meetings. We have no problem with the later groups but they should again
remind the father of the importance of formally teaching his children.
The family must regularly group around the father to learn of his love
and knowledge of God.
Like personal devotions, family devotions often have singing,
memorizing and discussion of God’s Word, prayer and sharing. The more
personally it is related to their lives, the more helpful the time is.
We will not go into details on how to conduct family devotions but deal
with some more concrete issues that parents of toddlers might have.
When do you start?
Devotions should begin before the children are born! That is right. At
that time it will only be the husband and wife assuming no other
relatives are present. Once the first child comes, the whole family
passes through a transition time for about 3 months. It is important for
devotions between the husband and wife to continue as much as possible
even if it is a brief ten minutes. My wife and I personally pray and
share each night as a couple. We don’t watch television but talk and
pray. This does take a commitment of time but think of the benefits. We
don’t fight. We are a harmonious couple. We love our marriage. We save a
lot of time that would otherwise be spent in aggravation, worries, and
fears.
When the child can sit up, it is time to start devotions with our
child. My wife and I still meet separately though. We like to. We cannot
share on the depth that is needed during family devotions. With our
children, we need to carry on at a different level of conversation and
focus.
Singing
We sing both simple children’s songs as well as old hymns. Little
children love to join in even if they do not know the words. They clap
or move their bodies. Before children can read, they can learn to sing
hymns together. We simply need to train them. Repeat more often. Have
them repeat some words after you. Their memories are fantastic.
If we find a child not singing (a bit older) a familiar song, it is not
because they do not know the song, but because they are showing ‘quiet’
rebellion. They are choosing not to sing. If we want them to sing, then
we should have them sing with us. They might need to be chastised
otherwise their rebellious spirit spoils the worship atmosphere.
God’s Word
We want the children to learn God’ s Word. We read, quote, and sing
God’ s Word. Our real purpose is to get us to think about what God’ s
Word says. Some use books to help them such as Bible storybooks. Use
those as extra reading material.
It is better to focus on a theme for a month. Memorize some appropriate
verses. Discuss them. Read other applicable verses. With search
programs on the web, one can do a search on patience (which we are doing
this month) in a flash and have a whole list of passages to work on. We
especially like the virtue theme calendar that gives us a Christian
theme for each month for the whole family to work on. On
a little different level, there are catechism questions and answers for
children to memorize. We have preferred to discuss these doctrinal
topics as they come up, but it is good to supplement and enrich what we
know about God’ s Word.
Memorizing Verses
A child is capable of memorizing a great amount of scripture verses. It
would be a shame if we did not believe this and act upon it. Sure the
parents must memorize along with them, but this is okay. Why not get
God’s Word in them early so it shapes them. They do not need to know its
meaning. They will learn that later on.
Certainly it is up to the parent to decide what is best, but they can
memorize chapters of appropriate verses along with choice ones. We
usually review them at devotions time. Our children can quote Psalm 1,
23 and 100. This is easy for them (and harder for Dad whose memory is
going!) Should we stop there? No. We keep going on and on. Here are some
practical points.
Have a folder for each older child. Keep the verses printed out that
the family has memorized together. We also keep the hymns we have
learned together. Bilingual families can learn some in Chinese and some
in English. Make it fun. I remember after learning Galatians 5:22-23, we would often go around each saying one word of the verses which would emphasize the fruit of the Spirit.
Pause for Reflection: What verses have your family learned so far? Which ones do you think they should know?
How do you get your child to sit still during devotions?
The time for prayer is the most difficult. But if we start early, then
even that trouble is somewhat eliminated. For example, when the child is
an infant the mother holds the baby’s hands and gives thanks before
feeding the baby. Once in the highchair the same thing happens. During
devotions, I always liked to take the youngest one and hold him or her
in my lap and hold his hands. When the baby has learned to fold hands
during prayer, they need to go through a time of keeping them folded. If
they resist, we just go back to holding them again.
We cannot force a child to be quiet, but we can help them sit still.
For example, toddlers will sit with Daddy or Mommy. When they are able
to start wiggling around, I hold them tight in my crossed legs. Unlike
church, we can ignore their baby sounds.
How do you pray?
This really depends on how old the child is. It is proper to teach
children to confess their sins, ask God for help and encourage them to
pray for others. We do encourage this but realize God cannot hear their
prayers before they know Christ as their Lord and Savior. We, however,
are praying with them and God does hear us. Prayer is a privilege for
Christians.
We take prayer requests. The children are great at remembering special
needs. We pray for missionaries. Make sure you have some missionary
focus as a family. We never dare just pray for ourselves. The Lord wants
to do greater things through us when we pray for others.
With many children, we take turns. With fewer children, it is fine for
each to pray. In this case, we would have the father open and the mother
close; the children pray in between. Children usually want to start
praying around 6, sometimes earlier. Earlier on, we just take their
hands and pray for them, “Thank you God for every good thing! Amen.”
Summary
Devotions can be shortened for nights when children are sick or tired.
If you come home late, just pray for them with a hand on them while they
are in bed. This is not a legalistic matter but one in which you can
seek God’ s blessing on your family and instruct them in your love for
God and His Word.
C. Thoughts on Spiritual Nurturing
Let’s now take a look at some other specific aspects of nurturing our family with spiritual teachings.
Praying for your Child
Each child is special. Each one has its own voice, facial shaping, body
size, palm prints and even finger prints. We should have a special
prayer for each child. The prayer is not magical; it is an earnest plea
from the parent for the child to help the child to be all he or she
should be. This prayer is a growing prayer. As we see the child grow, we
are aware of different gifts and challenges that particular child will
have in life. We need to sharpen our focus and prayers for that child.
Usually we see strengths and weaknesses in each child. We should
encourage them and pray for them that they would overcome the sin and
bodily weakness and fulfill God’s good plans. We specially equip them
with verses we have memorized with them. As in most people, there
usually is one predominant sin pattern in each person. As parents we
need to realize that this is the child’s biggest enemy to becoming a
godly person. Our prayers serve as their shield as long as we live.
By having such observations and prayers, we again are full of
expectations that the child will be a godly person, full of the Spirit
of Christ. We have found it helpful to focus on the name that we have
given them, much like the scriptures do. What does it mean? Why were you
inspired to give it to him or her? Pray for a godly fulfillment of that
name.
The Mother’ s Role
Some wonder why Deuteronomy 6, Ephesians 6 and other passages address
the father and his spiritual responsibility in bringing up the child
before the Lord but do not mention the mother. This is because the
father is the responsible one. We can see this in verse 4 by the special
way fathers are addressed. Father’s are head of the home. We do also
see, however, that he is not the only one active in shaping the child’ s
life.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. HONOR YOUR
FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise), THAT
IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH. And,
fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the
discipline and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:1-4)
In verse 1 we see that children are to obey their parents. There is no
distinction between father and mother. This is reaffirmed in verse 2 in
case we would have any doubts. Respect and honor are connected to
commands and wishes. Generally we see the mother’s care for the child’s
nurturing when small,
but the father must see to it that instruction in the Lord and the
whole discipline process is implemented. The wife works with the husband
to help implement his goals. The wife has special insight and ability
to help the children. The good father knows this and works closely with
his wife. Notice how the wife is expected to operate in the home.
That they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love
their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being
subject to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be
dishonored. (Titus 2:4-5)
The children should gain a great experience of warmth and love from
their mothers. This does not mean they do not chastise. Chastisement is a
sign of love. Any child that gives a mother great difficulty should be
told that his father will finish speaking to him upon his return. A
wife, however, dare not pass all such rebukes and instructions on to the
father. Surely the father does not have the advantage of the timing and
understanding of the context to get the greatest advantage in training
the child. A mother should be the main expression of tender love. She
needs to remember this. Father and mother work together in harmony as
one. We can understand a mother’s influence even more when we read the
scriptures related to a Christian mother with an unbelieving husband.
Unbelieving Husband
In some marriages one is a Christian and one an unbeliever. Such
believing mothers should not lose hope. A godly grandmother and mother
raised Timothy. He became a great pastor in the early church.
For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you, which first dwelt in
your grandmother Lois, and your mother Eunice, and I am sure that it is
in you as well. (2 Timothy 1:5)
Later we read that Timothy got his understanding of the scriptures from them.
And that from childhood you have known the sacred writings which are
able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation through faith which
is in Christ Jesus. (2 Timothy 3:15)
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the
unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for
otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy.
As long as the unbelieving husband (or wife) is willing to stay with
the believing spouse, the believing spouse can have great impact on an
otherwise lost child.
A Family Purpose
We need to think beyond just the goal of the child. As we look through
the scriptures we find that God does great things through families.
Children are seen as a multiplication or expansion of what the parents
stand for. As Christian parents, we must reject a pure individualistic
perspective and understand that God wants to perpetuate our ministry,
vision, love, etc. through our children.
For example, if we see that a couple is hospitable, more than likely
the children will learn to be so. We can see the compassion, care and
love through the parents, but we can see it through the children in the
way that they imitate their parents. We do not mean that parents should
force careers and positions upon their children, but that there should
be a general expectation of how the Lord will be working in ones
children. This should encourage us to set up a good positive model so
that our children will pass on those great things to others.
Take a look at Abraham, Isaac and Jacob’s lives. Note how they have
disharmonious marriages and how this negatively affected their children.
We can also note on a positive side how their faith in the Lord held
firm. They held onto the land and the promises of the Lord.
We need to be cautious, though. Children will not only pass on the good
but also the bad as they grow up. While we have time, we can confess
our sins and have the Lord’s strength to change. This encourages even
older children that have already been affected by bad modeling. If the
parents have changed, they know they need to change also.
The clearer we are on these matters, the easier it is to go forward
developing this purpose and sharing it with our children. “Do you know
how our great God uses our family? He has used us to help poor people
who live near us. Let me tell you about one family.” This sharing
instills a great vision that goes beyond an individual perspective that
is centered on the Lord’ s purposes rather than in money or position.
Pause for Reflection: What
is the Lord doing through your life as a family? What gifts do you
have? How does the Lord bring His grace to others through you as
parents?
Positive Instruction
Although we have said it before in the seminar, we should mention it
once more. We as parents are not just passing on negative admonitions.
Truly they are necessary. Our children are not to lie. But we must go
beyond this and tell them what good things they are to do instead! The
more we can focus on the good things, all encompassed in that one
command to “love our neighbor as ourselves,” the more we can instill a
vision for the virtue that we want to build in our children.
These positive instructions become the child’ s road to walk on. A
child cannot live by ignoring these things. They will wonder what
positive things they should be doing. We should give them answers to
that important question or they will look elsewhere. Let me give you an
example. I just heard our 3-year–old crying because he wanted something
that another brother had. I told him that he was not to cry to get
things that he wanted. But after that, I went on and told him what I did
expect.
I first got his attention to make sure he was listening. I told him
that I expected him to share things with others and play nicely. This is
how we ended our conversation. This is what I want him to remember.
Pause for Reflection: List
the positive instructions that you have given to your child in the last
week. Please remember that this can only be effectively done when the
child can start to understand and reason, but we can start training
ourselves!
Salvation among our Children
Every child needs to come to know the Lord. Remember that a child
should respect both God and their parents. We can train even a
non-Christian child to do this. But to love God and love others requires
the power of the Gospel. Children are born with a sinful nature. They
are sinners by virtue of being born to sinful parents. We parents are
sinful because of our sinful parents. And it goes on and on this way
until we go back to Adam. Paul summarizes it well in Romans speaking of
Adam.
So then as through one transgression (Adam’s sin) there resulted
condemnation to all men, even so through one act of righteousness
(Jesus’ righteousness) there resulted justification of life to all men. (Romans 5:18)
When Adam sinned the whole human race was contaminated. All people
everywhere need to be saved. Young children need to be saved too. People
do not come to a point where they become morally responsible and then
need to be saved. They are born sinners as it says above. The
process of salvation is the same with all people, but special care is
needed for children because they respect their parents and desire to
please them. This desire to please the parents is not the same as being
saved.
Sometimes we equate salvation with a decision. The problem with this is
that there are different parts of a decision. A decision includes the
mind, will and emotions. When a child feels he needs to please his Dad
or his pastor, he might say that he wants to be a Christian or nod his
head to their plea to be saved. This is probably just an emotional
decision. They might not be saved at all. Instead we should look for
other signs of salvation.
We should first speak clearly of their fallen state and need to be
saved from the wrath of God. We need to point out the child’s sins to
him. We do not do this accusingly but as a matter of fact. We should
remind him just for that sin of lying alone he would go to hell. We are
not exaggerating matters but just telling them the truth. Early on they
will understand this and equate their guilt with the displeasure of God.
We must not force them to say they are Christians. This does not change
their heart.
We are looking for an awareness of their own sinfulness. We should see a
repentant spirit about them. They should be asking questions about the
Lord, heaven and hell on their own. Then we know that the Spirit of God
is working. We can encourage the child to believe by saying things like, “I hope that you soon become a Christian. You wouldn’t want to live without the Lord.” Right
now, my four youngest children, I believe, are not Christians. But they
know I still love them. They hear how I pray for them to come to know
Him. They know becoming a Christian is the best thing in life. I could
easily convince them to say a sinner’s prayer but that does not save
them. They need the Holy Spirit to convict them of their sin so that
they would seek salvation and the cross.
Unfortunately the word ‘decision’ has become a replacement for ‘repent
and believe in Christ.’ We need to return to that basis. Notice the
power of God at work in salvation in the following verses.
I tell you, no, but unless you repent, you will all likewise perish. (Luke 13:5)
For our gospel did not come to you in word only, but also in power and in the Holy Spirit and with full conviction; (1 Thessalonians 1:5)
For they themselves report
about us what kind of a reception we had with you, and how you turned to
God from idols to serve a living and true God, and to wait for His Son
from heaven, whom He raised from the dead, that is Jesus, who delivers
us from the wrath to come. (1 Thessalonians 1:9-10)
Repentance is a spiritual conviction from God that a person’s sins are
the most dreadful curse upon him and deserve the condemnation of God and
thus seeks a way to escape from them.
When our children are trained right, we see a lot of good in them.
Don’t think this is the same as salvation. It is not. In fact, it can
lead to great deception if the parent believes it is the same. The
parent will convince the child and the pastor that they are saved when
they are not. The child will have the form of a Christian but not the
heart.
Repentance and belief go together. The child must believe or know that
Christ is their Savior. God will give them this faith. It is not the
mere knowledge that Christ died on the cross for their sins but a deep
confidence that this Savior indeed has saved them from their dreadful
sins. Even the best of children under conviction know they are wicked
sinners deserving judgment.
Pause for Reflection: Which of your children are saved? Have you seen them go through this repentance and belief stages?
Raising Godly Children
A parent should have goals of raising godly children. We should hope
that in their childhood that they come to know God through the Lord
Jesus Christ. We should also expect that they have a sense of love for
God and the ways of God. They should develop regular personal devotions
such as reading the Bible, praying and worshiping God.
A parent could insist that the children maintain these habits. We
refrain from imposing them upon our children unless they come to know
the Lord. We as Christian parents do these things but prayerfully wait
for God to stir their own hearts. We want to see them respond to God not
to us. They will see what to do by noticing us in our private devotion
times. You will help them to have good routines so that they can learn
to have regular devotions to seek God on their own.
The parent should carefully listen to their children’s prayers during
family devotions to see if there are thanks, worship, asking for
forgiveness and mission (praying for the needs and salvation of others).
This is part of the instruction that a father can give. Family
devotions is mandatory; personal devotions is to be something they
express to the Lord on their own.
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